You can’t watch as they smile, and that smile spreads up into their eyes and transforms their face into one of the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen – a thing that warms your heart and makes you realize you want to spend more time with the person. Unfortunately, the reality is nowhere near that fantasy.
To get some insight into what women go through on these dating websites, I pulled aside one of my family members who I knew had spent some time on these sites looking for her future spouse.
The better sites use geolocation and name/address verification. Geolocation is a feature that allows the website to find out in which country and city the subscribers are by IP number or other method.
I started browsing men between the ages of 55 and 75. Almost on every page that showed ten results I could detect a scammer.
Red Flag #2 When you do finally decide to meet up, decide on a neutral and safe location (a restaurant or a café) and have a friend or family member bring you and let them meet your date.
If you cannot arrange this, make sure you tell someone close to you about your plans.
The two services used by these individuals were OKCupid and Match.com, two of the largest and most popular dating websites on the Internet.
Anonymous Woman (AW): I can’t remember the exact year I signed up… Actually, now that I think about it, that was how most of the messages I got started.I’m a highly technical person and know a lot about the Internet and how it works.I became interested in this subject because one of my best friends is currently being scammed and she is in such denial so I realized I needed to find proof so I could show her that indeed she is dating a scammer.Don’t get me wrong, the vast majority of members of reputable dating sites (both paid and free) are legitimately looking for a sincere match, but there are red flags that you should look out for when embarking on the journey of online dating for the first time. Red Flag #1 If someone is too interested – too quickly – in getting to know you beyond the safety of your computer, this could indicate a problem.
If you have just met someone online and they are trying to encourage a meet-up before you really know them, they may not just be overly eager.
Include the name of the person you are meeting, where you are meeting them and when you expect to be home.